SELF-MASTERY
THE SILENT ENGINE OF AN EXTRAORDINARY LIFE
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At the core of every extraordinary life is one simple truth: Self-mastery is the foundation for everything else. It’s what separates high-performers from those who settle and is the determining factor for how far you’ll go personally, professionally, and creatively.
The stoic philosopher, Epictetus put it this way, "No man is free who is not master of himself." At The Grip, our mission is to simplify and de-mystify this critical skill, so you actually enjoy doing what it takes to master yourself—you’re much more likely to excel at it when you do.
In this week’s issue we’ve curated 10 of the most powerful books on self-mastery—each one a masterclass in building focus, clarity, and discipline. Whether you’re leading a team, building a business, or creating a life of impact, these books are tools to create the life you know you’re capable of.
Don’t just read them; put them to use immediately, and practice, practice, practice.
If you have a favorite self-mastery book that’s not on our list, reply to this email with your recommendation—we may feature it in a future issue.
Let’s dive in!
THE GRIP TOP 10 MUST-READ
self-mastery books
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1. Man's Search For Meaning by Viktor Frankl Buy On Amazon
Focus: Finding purpose in adversity to unlock resilience and leadership potential.
Summary: Psychiatrist Viktor Frankl’s memoir and psychological framework explore how meaning sustains human resilience, even in extreme suffering.
Actionable Insights:
Purpose as Motivation: Find a "why" to live for, even through adversity.
Freedom of Attitude: Take control of your mindset, even in uncontrollable circumstances.
Service Orientation: Helping others often reinforces personal meaning.
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2. The Untethered Soul by Michael Singer Buy On Amazon
Focus: Unlocking inner freedom for effective leadership and decision-making.
Summary: Michael Singer delves into the mechanics of the mind and its tendencies to create limitations, teaching readers how to transcend internal barriers to achieve personal and professional breakthroughs.
Actionable Insights:
Witnessing the Mind: Practice observing your thoughts without judgment to reduce mental clutter.
Letting Go: Release attachments to outcomes to maintain emotional balance.
Inner Clarity: Prioritize self-awareness to make clearer, more effective decisions.
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3. Loving What Is by Byron Katie Buy On Amazon
Focus: Transforming limiting beliefs for personal and professional freedom.
Summary: Byron Katie’s method, The Work, provides a framework for questioning and dismantling stressful thoughts. Learn to shift perspectives powerfully and quickly; eliminate mental barriers and lead with confidence and authenticity.
Actionable Insights:
Question Beliefs: Identify hidden assumptions that hold you back.
Turnaround Thinking: Reframe limiting beliefs to uncover empowering alternatives.
Inner Clarity: Make decisions from a place of truth rather than fear or stress.
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4. The Almanack of Naval Ravikant by Eric Jorgenson Buy On Amazon
Download a free digital copy (pdf, mobi, epbub) here: navalmanack.com
Focus: Wealth creation and happiness through leveraged thinking.
Summary: This curated compilation of Naval Ravikant’s insights offers timeless strategies for achieving financial independence and personal fulfillment, covering principles such as leverage, compounding, and judgment.
Actionable Insights:
Leverage: Identify tools, capital, or people that can amplify your efforts exponentially.
Specific Knowledge: Cultivate unique expertise that cannot be easily copied or outsourced.
Decision-Making: Prioritize clear thinking and avoid unnecessary decisions to conserve mental energy.
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5. Thinking, Fast and Slow by Daniel Kahneman Buy On Amazon
Focus: Cognitive biases and decision-making for strategic leadership.
Summary: Nobel laureate Daniel Kahneman explores the dual systems of thinking—fast, intuitive decisions and slow, deliberate reasoning—bridging psychology and strategy for better decision-making in business and life.
Actionable Insights:
System 1 vs. System 2: Recognize when to rely on instinctive versus analytical thinking.
Framing Effect: Pay attention to how information is presented to shape perceptions.
Overconfidence Bias: Challenge assumptions to improve accuracy in planning.
“No man is free who is not master of himself. ”
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Intentional: 52 Maxims of Conscious Choosing To Create the Deeply Satisfying Life You Desire by Becky Henderson
Focus: Personal development and self-mastery through intentional choosing.
Summary: A structured guide to becoming a conscious, empowered creator of your desired life.
Actionable Insights:
Unlearning: Old habits and patterns can’t take you where you want to go next. Consciously make room for something new.
Responsibility: Where responsibility increases, so does workability and power to deal effectively with your life.
Reinvention: Who you are is reinventible. You can create something new starting now.
Download the first 5 chapters for free! Subscribe to The Grip and receive the first 5 chapters of Intentional as our welcome to The Plenteous Life community.
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6. Thinking In Bets by Annie Duke Buy On Amazon
Focus: Decision-making amid uncertainty and leveraging probabilistic thinking.
Summary: Former professional poker player Annie Duke presents a fresh perspective for making smarter, risk-aware decisions.
Actionable Insights:
Separate Decisions from Outcomes: Evaluate the quality of your decision-making process independently from results.
Embrace Probabilistic Thinking: Assess the probabilities of various outcomes rather than seeking certainty.
Decision-Making as Betting: Frame choices as calculated bets, considering potential risks and rewards.
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7. Straight Line Leadership by Dusan Djukich Buy On Amazon
Hard copies of this book are becoming rare. Currently it is selling for about $100 on Amazon. From time to time we make a free version of it available to subscribers of The Grip; subscribe today and you’ll have access to it next time we promote it.
Focus: Achieving clarity, discipline, and results-driven leadership.
Summary: Dusan Djukich challenges readers to adopt a no-nonsense approach to leadership by focusing on results and personal responsibility.
Actionable Insights:
Be the Cause: Take radical responsibility for results instead of blaming external circumstances.
Focus on Straight-Line Thinking: Directly address issues without distractions or tangents.
Action Orientation: Replace overthinking with decisive, consistent execution.
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8. The Traveler's Gift by Andy Andrews Buy On Amazon
Focus: Timeless principles for personal and professional growth.
Summary: Through a fictional narrative, Andy Andrews delivers seven life principles essential for success and fulfillment; timeless wisdom for aligning actions with purpose.
Actionable Insights:
Seek Wisdom: Pursue guidance and knowledge from mentors and history.
Persist Without Exception: Commit to consistency and resilience in the face of challenges.
Choose Joy: Maintain a positive attitude to inspire and uplift others.
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9. Stealing Fire by Steven Kotler and Jamie Wheal Buy On Amazon
Focus: Unlocking mental flow states to enhance creativity, performance, and leadership.
Summary: Jamie Wheal and Steven Kotler explore how altered states of consciousness, or ecstasis, can drive breakthroughs in innovation, collaboration, and personal performance.
Actionable Insights:
The Four Forces of Ecstasis: Learn how psychology, neurobiology, pharmacology, and technology converge to unlock heightened states of consciousness.
Flow Triggers: Identify and use specific conditions, such as deep focus or risk-taking, to enter the flow state and boost productivity.
Ethical Optimization: Approach altered states with intention and responsibility, balancing innovation with long-term well-being.
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10. Never Split The Difference by Chris Voss Buy On Amazon
Focus: Transforming negotiations from dreaded tasks into opportunities for breakthrough outcomes, professionally and personally.
Summary: Former FBI hostage negotiator Chris Voss reveals unconventional strategies for negotiation, rooted in human psychology and tactical empathy.
Actionable Insights:
Tactical Empathy: Understand and verbalize the other party’s perspective to build trust and uncover hidden motivations.
The "No" Strategy: Encourage the other party to say “no” to create a sense of control and openness in the conversation.
Labeling Emotions: Acknowledge and name emotions to diffuse tension and foster collaboration.
To master anything else, first master yourself. It is in self-mastery that your extraordinary life begins. As with integrity, mastery is a mountain with no top, so drop the unnecessary burden of perfection and learn to enjoy the climb!
These books will serve you greatly on your self-mastery journey.
Keep creating!
May you prosper in every way!
Becky & TPL Team
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